What happens when you start hating anyone? Especially when in the recent past you have admired that person, the qualities the person belongs. Something happens, and all of a sudden your view changes. All of a sudden, you start noticing the not-so-good qualities, or rather you see through ONLY bad qualities.
Exactly same thing is happening with me. More i talk to that person, more i am not liking him. The most disliking thing of that person is selfishness. It is not that nobody is selfish or i am not selfish. Agree everybody, most of the times, are. But this person, over a period of time gained so much of this quality that prompts me to hate him more, literally in my nerves now.
What can i do? Nothing!!
sorry for the intereference,
'blog' has created a lots of interest..read some of yours and this "hatered" made me think a lot...so frankly expressing my opinion.
some times me too feel hatered about someone(more or less the same way, you mentioned)...but to be precise that hatered is not for the person, but the qualities in him/her...
earlier, we like someone, many times we neglect some of the things we really dont like, owing to the other good qualities...
may be we hate him/her more, if we are unable to change these (bad)qualities and he/she doesnt change the things that we dislike
what will we do, if the person we used to hate a lot, changes his/her qualities? (the same due to which we used to hate him)
will we appreciate the change, or we keep the hatered alive?
Posted by: rohini | 01/14/2010 at 02:28 AM
sorry for the intereference,
'blog' has created a lots of
interest..read some of yours and this "hatered" made me think a
lot...so frankly expressing my opinion.
some times me too feel
hatered about someone(more or less the same way, you mentioned)...but
to be precise that hatered is not for the person, but the qualities in
him/her...
earlier, we like someone, many times we neglect some of the things we really dont like, owing to the other good qualities...
may be we hate him/her more, if we are unable to change these (bad)qualities and he/she doesnt change the things that we dislike
what will we do, if the person we used to hate a lot, changes his/her qualities? (the same due to which we used to hate him)
will we appreciate the change, or we keep the hatered alive?
Posted by: rohini | 01/14/2010 at 02:30 AM
sorry for the intereference,
'blog' has created a lots of
interest..read some of yours and this "hatered" made me think a
lot...so frankly expressing my opinion.
some times me too feel
hatered about someone(more or less the same way, you mentioned)...but
to be precise that hatered is not for the person, but the qualities in
him/her...
earlier, we like someone, many times we neglect some of the things we really dont like, owing to the other good qualities...
may be we hate him/her more, if we are unable to change these (bad)qualities and he/she doesnt change the things that we dislike
what will we do, if the person we used to hate a lot, changes his/her qualities? (the same due to which we used to hate him)
will we appreciate the change, or we keep the hatered alive?
Posted by: rohini | 01/14/2010 at 02:33 AM
Yes, might be you are right. After all a what a person is made up of, is of the qualities he posses. And most of the times are qualities are inborn, and hard for other person to change it. Whereas some qualities are adopted or emerged from no-where. With the first, you don't feel much, because the person is like that inborn. But with the later, you feel bad because that person was totally different before he got into these bad qualities. And this is when you start hating the person MORE.
Posted by: अनिकेत समुद्र | 01/14/2010 at 02:40 AM
oh, the comment got posted three times...
my mistake,
that was the very first attempt of mine to get involved in such things...:P
What you mentioned is right...
but the question remains unanswered..
will the changes be appreciated or the hatred dominate?
(its very well known that, "all that evil is Hatred.."
although many, including me, are not able to get rid of it...)
Posted by: rohini | 01/14/2010 at 02:49 AM
i think changes will be definitely appreciated why not? May be not for all, but from my perspective, i will appreciate it. I think good things dominate over evil, if not always, at list it will be for most of the times.
Posted by: अनिकेत समुद्र | 01/14/2010 at 02:58 AM